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After the Shaadi: From Online Rishta to Marriage: Talking Points for Couples

Salaam everyone! So, you’ve gone through the whole online rishta process, survived the Pakistani shaadi madness, and now you're officially hitched. Mazel tov! But hey, the journey has just started, and believe me, there's still loads to uncover about your better half. Let's dive into the questions every couple should be asking each other after getting hitched in our beloved Pakistan.

Life Goals and Dreams:

Chalo, let’s start with the big picture. What are your life dreams, bhai? Maybe you want to open a dhaaba on the streets of Lahore or dream of studying abroad. Share your khwab with your partner and make sure you’re on the same route.

Family Values:

Abay yaar, we all know family comes first in our culture. Chat about your family traditions, who’s hosting the next dawat, and how often you’ll be visiting your in-laws' house. And don't forget about your mummy’s special biryani recipe!

Money Matters:

Let's be real – paisa does matter. Discuss how you're going to manage finances, whether you're pooling your dhaais or keeping them separate. Think about saving up for that honeymoon in Murree or buying a phat car in the future.

Career Plans:

Acha, what’s the plan for your 9 to 5 grind? Are you gonna be the next Shoaib Malik or aiming for a more traditional career path? Share your ambitions and discuss how you'll support each other's professional dreams.

Personal Space:

Bhai, we all need some time to recharge. Talk about personal space and how you’ll balance it with your shaadi duties and binge-watching Pakistani dramas. After all, catching up on Meray Paas Tum Ho is a must!

Children and Family Planning:

The infamous bachay wala question. Discuss how many bachay you both want and when you’ll start planning for the next generation. You don’t want to be dealing with diaper duty while missing the cricket match, right?

Communication Styles:

Communication is key, yaar. Share how you like to express yourself – whether it’s through emojis or using the ultimate art of chai-making. Understand each other's communication styles to avoid any misunderstanding.

Religious Practices:

For us Pakistanis, faith is a big part of our lives. Talk about your religious practices and how you’ll incorporate them into your daily routine. Maybe you’ll start praying together or enjoy that weekly halwa puri breakfast.

Domestic Chores and Responsibilities:

Abay bai, ghar ka kaam toh share karna hi padega! Decide who’s gonna do the cooking, cleaning, and other house chores. And don't forget the mithai runs for guests – it's a desi tradition!

Travel Plans:

Plan out your travel dreams – whether it’s exploring the Northern Areas or hitting the beaches of Karachi. Discuss where you want to go and how you’ll manage those epic road trips.

Personal Growth and Development:

We’re all evolving, yaar. Talk about how you both want to grow as individuals, whether it’s taking up a new hobby, learning a skill, or simply becoming better versions of yourselves.

Author’s Note:
Lekin, yaar, don’t just stick to this list like a script. Use it as a starting point, and don’t forget to throw in your own Pakistani tadka to make the conversations spicy and unforgettable. After all, shaadi life is all about embracing the roller-coaster ride together, right? Byee

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